Forgive them, they know not what they do.

Notice that you never see anyone (usually) over the age of 40 with their underwear exposed, knowingly? Not that there's anything wrong with it.  If you are 20, that is fine.  Go with your "skinny purple bad ass pants" self.  I'm all for creativity after all. 

But for those of us who have trouble with the skinny purple pants look, albeit fine and dandy for those who can wear it...let's leave those with their undies hanging out alone.  Let's give them a break.  Cut them some slack.  (Don't tell me there isn't a photo of you somewhere, maybe mid 1970's or early 1980's, sporting a mullet and thick red rimmed glasses.  Shoulder pads, anyone? Leg warmers? Maybe you thought the feather-back hair was really swell.)

I suppose what I'm getting at is that we are all susceptible to trends-they make us feel cool, unique. However maybe you secretly don't like the skinny purple pants.  But they make you feel special. I am all for that!  Because one day, when you are 40 or maybe it will be when you are 60 or 80...you'll give them up and not care what anyone thinks of you.  Maybe you will source your self esteem from within.  You will wake up one day and think-this doesn't define me.  I'm a unique, lovable, wonderful human being and I'm different from everyone else who has ever lived.  I'm fantastic without those purple pants!!! Who needs em??

Know this those who wear purple pants and those who do not...you are LOVED.  We may not express our love very clearly at times.  We maybe don't say "I love you and you rock my world, it's a better place with you in it",as often as we should.  Maybe we don't take enough time out of our busy day to sit with you, but you are loved.  Maybe you wear silly purple pants (you are young, it's okay) but to us you are just as worthy as the next guy.  Are you catching my drift?

Tell everyone you meet today, EVERYONE how much they mean to you.  Call it an exercise in "filling up their love cup".  If it is the postman, tell him how much you appreciate his long hours on foot delivering your mail.  If it is your mechanic, thank him for being a straightforward business man and not ripping you off for a phony Johnson rod that is missing from your engine.  Maybe it's just a smile to a neighbour you really can't stand.  (Because in truth it is hard to show unconditional love to the entire world.  But a smile is easy and just may mend that rift.)  Maybe it is someone you tell everyday, well tell them again anyways.  Tell them a thousand times over. Go forth and cast a happy spell!

xoxo

This post is dedicated to Brianne, a unique, caring & beautiful young girl gone far too soon...and to any  person who is hurting and lacks the will to reach out for help. xo

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Comments

[Jenn*~]

now THAT is a beautiful post my friend..you inspire me everyday, and I am glad that YOU are in my world...whew...i am blessed...xo

[Yoli]

That last bit touched my heart deeply.

[Donna]

We were all young once, and some of us refuse to grow up, and everyone deserves to be given a break and the benefit of the doubt. I've learned never to judge a book by its cover and trust that you can never know what is lurking beneath the surface. We can all learn to be a little more tolerant, so thank you, my dear friend, for the reminder. I love you.

[Maithri]

You're one of my favourite people in the world ;)

Much love you love ministrel you,

M

[Tara Bradford]

Wise words, as always - and a lovely tribute to Brianne, who, tragically, is gone much too soon.

[soeurs du jour]

thank you. so many people so quick to judge. no thought to the real story, the real life or the real person.

[Preeti Shenoy]

Oh my God Gillian--what a post!
You are so right in what you said. It is indeed that desperate plea to be noticed , to be cared for which makes people do the purple pant thing.

I agree 100% with your philosophy of giving a smile and making the world a better place.

you inspire me!
Cheers
preeti

[Kim Mailhot]

Love to you, Brilliant One. A wonderful post.

"A bit of fragrance always clings to the hand that gives roses." - a Chinese Proverb.

[~Sheila~]

I've always felt that most people will live up to your expectations of them. Smile and say Hello, even if they are 'different'.
Difference,like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.
Open minds and open hearts would make the world a much happier place.
xx

[randi]

absolutely BEAUTIFUL post Gillian... perhaps my favorite of yours... I'vee found the people that take some effort to get to know are always way worth knowing... i love the smile thing too.. its my favorite thing to give a smile to a person that looks grumpy, mean, or even intimidating.. its rare that they dont smile back, and it helps me to remember people are good...

[Dean]

Inspiring ... although ... next time you take a picture of my purple pants, let me know ... I'll pull my pants up first!

[Gillian daSilva]

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[Marilyn]

So sorry Brianne is gone.
Purple pants and underwear showing may lead to a fantastic new inspiration in fashion. A fitting tribute.

[susanna]

I'm sorry to hear about your friend's daughter. What a terrible, terrible thing to have happened.

Your post brought to mind several younger relatives of ours who adore their low hangin' baggy pants with the cool underwear showing...memories of them brought a smile to my face tonight. Thanks, Gillian.

[christina]

this made me laugh and then made me cry.
love you!

[elizabeth]

I used to say that I wouldn't wear bell bottoms. Until I did. So your next shot of purple pants might be me .. :)

Good reminder!